Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

opinionated

outgoing

nurturing

inventive

indecisive

perfectionist

power-oriented

self-centered

enthusiastic

tolerant

sympathetic

dominant

unsure

self-serving

naive

suspicious

playful

decisive

loyal

contented

worry-prone

silently stubborn

arrogant

flighty

assertive

kind

sociable

reliable

self-critical

reluctant

bossy

a teaser

action-oriented

easygoing

carefree

analytical

overly sensitive

obnoxious

shy

critical of others

a good listener

determined

a party person

detail conscious

demanding

unforgiving

unmotivated

vain

considerate

idealistic

responsible

happy

passive

moody

impatient

impulsive

fun-loving

respectful

strong-willed

patient

argumentative

directionless

an interrupter

unrealistic

dependable

even-tempered

independent

trusting

ambivalent

forgetful

frequently depressed

aggressive

gentle

deliberate

optimistic

powerful

insensitive

undisciplined

boring

judgmental

agreeable

popular

logical

emotional

guilt prone

always right

unenthusiastic

uncommitted

well-behaved

accepting

pragmatic

spontaneous

thoughtful

a show-off

merciless

uninvolved

task-oriented

diplomatic

lively

sincere

lazy

hard to please

tactless

loud

creative

direct

adaptable

a performer

calculating

self-deprecating

self-righteous

disorganized

pleasant

charismatic

disciplined

confident

intimidating

careful

afraid to face facts

unproductive

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is free of pressure and stress.

As a child, I was:

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

As an adult, I am:

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

When making decisions, I am:

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

When I fail, I feel:

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

If someone crosses me:

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Protected by others.

Admired by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Acceptance and safety.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.