Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

outgoing

nurturing

inventive

opinionated

indecisive

self-centered

power-oriented

perfectionist

tolerant

dominant

sympathetic

enthusiastic

suspicious

unsure

naive

self-serving

loyal

contented

decisive

playful

worry-prone

silently stubborn

arrogant

flighty

reliable

assertive

sociable

kind

bossy

reluctant

self-critical

a teaser

action-oriented

easygoing

carefree

analytical

overly sensitive

shy

obnoxious

critical of others

a party person

a good listener

detail conscious

determined

unmotivated

vain

demanding

unforgiving

happy

idealistic

considerate

responsible

passive

moody

impulsive

impatient

patient

fun-loving

respectful

strong-willed

argumentative

unrealistic

an interrupter

directionless

dependable

trusting

independent

even-tempered

aggressive

frequently depressed

ambivalent

forgetful

powerful

gentle

optimistic

deliberate

insensitive

judgmental

boring

undisciplined

agreeable

popular

logical

emotional

uncommitted

unenthusiastic

guilt prone

always right

accepting

spontaneous

well-behaved

pragmatic

uninvolved

a show-off

thoughtful

merciless

diplomatic

task-oriented

lively

sincere

loud

lazy

hard to please

tactless

direct

creative

adaptable

a performer

calculating

disorganized

self-righteous

self-deprecating

disciplined

charismatic

pleasant

confident

unproductive

careful

intimidating

afraid to face facts

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

As a child, I was:

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

As an adult, I am:

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

As a parent, I am:

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

When making decisions, I am:

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

When I fail, I feel:

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

If someone crosses me:

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

Work is:

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

In social situations, I am most often:

Protected by others.

Envied by others.

Admired by others.

Feared by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.

Security, creativity, and purpose.