Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

outgoing

nurturing

inventive

opinionated

perfectionist

indecisive

power-oriented

self-centered

sympathetic

tolerant

dominant

enthusiastic

unsure

suspicious

self-serving

naive

contented

playful

decisive

loyal

arrogant

silently stubborn

flighty

worry-prone

reliable

sociable

kind

assertive

reluctant

self-critical

bossy

a teaser

carefree

easygoing

action-oriented

analytical

overly sensitive

shy

critical of others

obnoxious

determined

a good listener

detail conscious

a party person

unmotivated

vain

unforgiving

demanding

considerate

idealistic

happy

responsible

moody

impulsive

impatient

passive

fun-loving

respectful

strong-willed

patient

argumentative

an interrupter

unrealistic

directionless

even-tempered

independent

trusting

dependable

frequently depressed

forgetful

ambivalent

aggressive

powerful

gentle

deliberate

optimistic

undisciplined

insensitive

boring

judgmental

emotional

logical

agreeable

popular

unenthusiastic

guilt prone

always right

uncommitted

accepting

spontaneous

well-behaved

pragmatic

thoughtful

merciless

uninvolved

a show-off

diplomatic

task-oriented

sincere

lively

loud

tactless

lazy

hard to please

adaptable

direct

a performer

creative

self-deprecating

calculating

disorganized

self-righteous

confident

charismatic

pleasant

disciplined

unproductive

careful

intimidating

afraid to face facts

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Fight back with facts and anger.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is task-oriented and productive.

As a child, I was:

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

As an adult, I am:

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

When making decisions, I am:

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

When I fail, I feel:

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

If someone crosses me:

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

In social situations, I am most often:

Admired by others.

Protected by others.

Feared by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Approved of and right.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Security, creativity, and purpose.