Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

opinionated

inventive

nurturing

outgoing

perfectionist

self-centered

indecisive

power-oriented

sympathetic

dominant

tolerant

enthusiastic

suspicious

self-serving

naive

unsure

contented

playful

loyal

decisive

arrogant

flighty

worry-prone

silently stubborn

kind

sociable

assertive

reliable

reluctant

self-critical

bossy

a teaser

carefree

analytical

easygoing

action-oriented

shy

obnoxious

overly sensitive

critical of others

a party person

a good listener

detail conscious

determined

unforgiving

vain

unmotivated

demanding

responsible

happy

considerate

idealistic

impulsive

passive

impatient

moody

strong-willed

fun-loving

respectful

patient

argumentative

unrealistic

directionless

an interrupter

trusting

even-tempered

dependable

independent

aggressive

frequently depressed

ambivalent

forgetful

deliberate

optimistic

powerful

gentle

judgmental

boring

undisciplined

insensitive

logical

popular

emotional

agreeable

unenthusiastic

always right

uncommitted

guilt prone

accepting

pragmatic

well-behaved

spontaneous

a show-off

merciless

uninvolved

thoughtful

sincere

diplomatic

task-oriented

lively

loud

tactless

lazy

hard to please

direct

a performer

adaptable

creative

calculating

self-deprecating

disorganized

self-righteous

confident

pleasant

disciplined

charismatic

afraid to face facts

intimidating

careful

unproductive

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is task-oriented and productive.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is filled with people and purpose.

As a child, I was:

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

As an adult, I am:

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

When making decisions, I am:

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

When I fail, I feel:

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

If someone crosses me:

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

Work is:

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

In social situations, I am most often:

Admired by others.

Envied by others.

Protected by others.

Feared by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Acceptance and safety.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.