Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

nurturing

inventive

opinionated

outgoing

perfectionist

self-centered

indecisive

power-oriented

tolerant

sympathetic

enthusiastic

dominant

naive

self-serving

suspicious

unsure

loyal

decisive

contented

playful

worry-prone

flighty

arrogant

silently stubborn

kind

sociable

reliable

assertive

bossy

reluctant

a teaser

self-critical

analytical

easygoing

carefree

action-oriented

critical of others

overly sensitive

shy

obnoxious

determined

a good listener

a party person

detail conscious

demanding

vain

unmotivated

unforgiving

considerate

happy

responsible

idealistic

impatient

passive

impulsive

moody

respectful

patient

strong-willed

fun-loving

argumentative

directionless

unrealistic

an interrupter

independent

trusting

dependable

even-tempered

forgetful

aggressive

ambivalent

frequently depressed

gentle

optimistic

deliberate

powerful

judgmental

boring

undisciplined

insensitive

logical

agreeable

emotional

popular

unenthusiastic

always right

uncommitted

guilt prone

accepting

spontaneous

pragmatic

well-behaved

uninvolved

merciless

a show-off

thoughtful

task-oriented

sincere

lively

diplomatic

lazy

tactless

hard to please

loud

adaptable

direct

a performer

creative

calculating

disorganized

self-righteous

self-deprecating

charismatic

confident

pleasant

disciplined

afraid to face facts

intimidating

careful

unproductive

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is filled with people and purpose.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is free of pressure and stress.

As a child, I was:

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

As an adult, I am:

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

As a parent, I am:

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

When making decisions, I am:

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

When I fail, I feel:

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

If someone crosses me:

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Admired by others.

Protected by others.

Feared by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.